Finding Healing through Healing others

You might think that you have had it worse. That's until you hear of other people's pain. A part of being generous is lending your ears to listen to the problems of those around you. Open your ears and take your eyes off your pain, for you will be surprised that you can find your healing on the road to helping others heal.

How to Deal with Loneliness

You might go through times when you feel like there is no hope and no one really cares for you. It is now and then that you have to train yourself to use your loneliness to reach out to those who may be needing your help.

The Pains of Change and Growth

I saw a quote today in my boss' office that went something like this, "You won't change until the pains of change become painful than remaining the same". I can't remember it word for word but it has a lot of truth. Sometimes it takes pain to change and that's the truth. Just listen to Tracy Chapman's song called "Change" and you will get a glimpse of what it takes to change.

End of the Year Thoughts #7

#7 Don't be surprised if those closest to you hurt those who are dear to you. We are all imperfect humans at the end of the day.

Fear of Pain

Why are you are afraid of pain? Pain births things. A simple example is how life begins. It starts with pain for the mother and the child too who is uncomfortable with the new environment. So go in the direction of your dreams and don't be afraid of pain.

Ways to Deal with Your Pain

We all have faced pain at one time or another in our lives. Sometimes the pain comes back and haunts us even after many years. Here are some things to remember when such thoughts cloud your mind:

1. The past is the past and can't be changed
2. Forgive yourself if you caused the pain and re-new the forgiveness for any people who might have hurt you at that time
3. Remind yourself about what you gained from such painful lessons

Forgiving and letting go...

Have you ever wondered why forgiveness is sometimes so hard? Why do we always want to expect that others will never wrong us? Of course there is a difference between forgiving someone for backbiting, and forgiving someone for doing something serious like murder. But one way  or the other, I think that realizing forgiveness is a two way street is a part of healing. Thus, in order to forgive others for anything, it is also important to make the decision that you don't want to remain hurt, vengeful, bitter or disappointed. Sometimes I think forgiveness is a choice we make when we decide whether we want to keep holding onto destructive pain ...or do we want to let go of the pain so we don't keep repeating the cycle in our minds and potentially harm others?