The pursuit of love

In Tanzania there are 2 Swanglish sayings which can summarize the quote for today, Usipende kufosi mambo and Mpende akupendaye asiyekupenda achana naye. The first quote means don't develop a liking for forcing things to happen and the second one means Love the one who loves you and forget the one who doesn't. Both of these quotes tie back to love and the act of letting go. In the journey of love there are times of uncertainty, sometimes you have to step back and wait for the future to unfold. If you all are meant to be in whatever way that means to you....you all will be together. Of course, don't force love or the one you love to do that they do not desire to.

Self control and you

 

Have you ever tried controlling an adult? It is useless. Children are the ones who need such control, instruction, or guidance. But when you and others grow older, you just have to let it be. You have to let it be, and to not forget that the easiest way to stay sane, in the midst of whichever chaos is to control yourself. Don't waste your time trying to control external factors. Instead, take the time to know "you" in depth, so you can control your reactions to the ups and downs of life.

Planning

 

We all make plans about big and small things. But it is important to make sure that you are not wasting time on planning. Take time to actually carry out that plan or those plans, as without doing so, you will merely become a planner instead of an executer of the plans.

 

 

Comfort zone walls and life

What are your comfort zones? What keeps you trapped in them? Do you know there is a whole new other world waiting to be explored? There is so much you don't know about yourself and others, but by getting out your comfort zone, you will discover a whole new world. So take a deep breath or count from 1 to 10, and then a day at a time, begin to break down those comfort zones, and you will be surprised that you are also helping others in the process.

Patience, time, and nature

Patience sometimes stands between us and our desires.  There is  a lot that we might want to happen quickly, but sometimes just as nature, we have to learn to wait. Even the stars in their courses above, have to wait before lighting the sky, no matter how beautiful the dark evening may look. We also need to adopt patience into our daily routines as its rewards are priceless. Do you want to know how? Just wait and see!


Winning and effort

There are times when all we want are external victories, but sometimes the inner victories are the best, because you can them use as a hidden fuel to help you in your other battles. And of course, sometimes if you have done your best, that is really all that matters, and you can stay confident and wait for the next direction that your plans will take you to.

Words and communication

People may sometimes forget whatever you did to them, but not what you said or wrote about them. Words are powerful, and they have the ability, to destroy or create relationships. Many a time we have caught ourselves saying the wrong thing due to being mindless. Be careful not to let your tongue go before your thoughts, think a lot before you speak, because sometimes your words will "not be forgotten but will be forgiven."



The belief in good things in spite of the rains

One thing I am learning is that, if we adhere to a negative belief system, no matter what happens in our lives, we will still be negative. There are good and bad times in life, but the belief that things won't always be bad, is what creates the hope that sees us through some of the roughest days of our lives. So keep believing and you will be surprised with what the seeds  of belief will bring forth in your life.

True love

Everyone wants to fall in love and stay there forever? So we end up not only wanting love, but true love, when we eventually decide to settle down. But true love is not just something, as easy as abc and 123, it is an everyday active process that requires two hearts to be actively engaged in being trustworthy, romantic, understanding and much more. The acronym for TRUE LOVE  below, might be a great reminder, and of course don't hold on to that person too tight. Let them also have their own time to do whatever it is, and of course because they are your true love, the necessary time apart won't change a thing.



 

Dreams and reality

Have you ever had dreams that only seemed like something only accomplishable in dreams? Well sometimes your dreams are meant to stay there. But sometimes you have to take the extra step and make your dream a reality. You will be surprised how capable you are, and you will end up not only bringing the best in yourself but also in others! So exercise perseverance, passion, and patience and you will be surprised that some of your dreams were not only meant to be dreams.

 

 

 

 

 

Negativity and rising

We all have faced negativity in certain stages of our lives...that sinking feeling. However, there is no need to fear negativity, as it is also a teacher, as someone once said, "Adversity is the greatest teacher." So when things are not going as well with people or things, don't stress, but instead take it as a training ground. Not only that, but as a gift from life to help you  to be prepared in the future for similar instances, as we all know life is sometimes a cycle, which sometimes leads to history repeating itself in many forms.

 

Motivation if you got haterssss



I don't usually write about haters often, but I know there is someone out there, who might not be living life fully because of them. My 2 cents for you is please don't worry about them. Please focus on your life no matter how hard it seems. A wise friend of mine once told me is "that if you play with pigs in the mud, you will get dirty and the pigs won't care because they love the dirt." So my brothers and sisters don't let haters take you down to the dirt...rise up and keep that dirt off your shoulder for good. Oh and don't carry that negative energy from the haters in you or you will become a hater!!! And of course, Sweety Brown already said, "Aint nobody got time for that" and you shouldn't either. Happy weekend!!!

Dancing with the music of life



When I was little I was fascinated by ballerina dancers and figure skaters. I even remember trying to spin like Nancy Kerrigan one of the best figure skaters of the 90s. Never made it to a ballerina class, and yeah I still dance, and enjoy watching different kinds of dance shows. I don't know today what kind of music fascinates you, but don't forget to take time to dance. There is something magical about dancing that tells the story of life in a way that even words can't, so dance and dance!

Leading and leadership

Leadership is indeed something that is worth practicing before claiming expertise. You can't know what kind of leader you are, until you actually start to lead. And of course, leadership is not all about you, but about others. If you have a broad vision for many people, and you are willing to put in the work to make it a reality, then you are a leader. And of course leading is all about "Let's go" and not just "Go!"

Regrets and regrets

Don't you sometimes feel like your life is full of regrets? I didn't, I shouldn't have, I wish I hadn't...don't those all sound familiar? Relax, your just a human, navigating the plains of life. Nobody has all the answers, but what you can do is be patient with yourself, and the twists and turns of life. Don't dwell on the past, learn and move on, and then turn your pain into gain and lemons into lemonade.

Trust and promises...promises and trust

When it comes to daily relationships or even the corporate world, many of us want people we can trust...that is dependable people. Trust is indeed an important character. As for some people when it comes to choosing a life partner, trust is one of the most important things beyond even money, looks and other criteria. And it hurts when someone you trust doesn't keep a promise, but don't get bitter, but instead use that experience to motivate you to keep your promises. And, yeah don't make promises you can't keep for  the sake of the moment. Be strategic and truthful a day at a time, as you build blocks of truth, as there is no need to make a promise you can't keep in the first place.

The art of advice

There are times people share things with you. Sometimes all they want is just a listening ear. Not everyone wants to hear advice. So just take it slow. Listen and listen real good. Then you will know what to say, as there is a time for everything. And you will know when your advice is needed, and then you can share it in the most empathetic manner possible. Happy week!
 

Solitude is golden

Are you afraid of taking time alone? Taking time alone is a gift in its self. Sometimes the best revelations or epiphanies emerge in moments of solitude. So whenever you find yourself alone either by choice or chance, in the midst of a busy day; embrace the solitude and listen....listen and you will hear what needs to be heard.

Humility and rising

Some people might think humility is a bad thing, but sometimes we don't even have to look so far, as nature shows us that being "lower like an ocean can give you power from rivers."And from that power, guess what? You can use to positively impact the lives of people around you and even afar. Also, just remember that no matter what your plight in life is, it's not all about you. Somebody must have made your life easier in one way or another, even directly or indirectly. So be humble and give back everyday in big and small ways, that is the essence of human life and nature.

Waiting and waiting

 Don't we all hate waiting? Funny enough, we are sometimes the ones who keep ourselves, and others waiting. Sometimes the best things in life take time. Sometimes what we want or need isn't ready, so we have to wait. So what should we do while waiting? One thing to remember is, that if you know what your waiting for is valuable, then give it some credit, and be patient....wait with a good attitude:)

Beauty and confidence go hand in hand

Can I share something today with you ladies? Beauty is confidence and confidence is a beautifier and beauty. So do you want to be beautiful? Then be confident. And are you confident? Then wow you are beautiful. Everybody has some beauty in them so don't wait to find out many years later. Know that today and live it out. Remember you are beautiful no matter what!!! And celebrate the beauty in others!!!

 

Quitting

Have you ever felt like quitting? It is sometimes the easiest thing to do. But when faced such feelings don't just throw your priorities away, take that time to re-examine and affirm your dream. Sometimes you face a major defeat before a major victory.

Change

It is sometimes always easier to hope and pray that people or circumstances will change. And of course, if that or they change everything becomes okay. But wait a minute, what about us? Yes, what about you and me? We also have to change. Sometimes it is hard to change a person or circumstance; but what if you change while waiting for the change that comes or never comes? Well you will be on the winning side because you decided to change first, and move beyond the present cloudiness. Just make sure the self-change is balanced, so don't forget to be you in the midst of change.

New beginnings

I guess we choose to start a new beginning whenever we are fed with cycles from the past. There is always hope. Just look inside yourself and you will surprised to find that you can unlock the answers to beginning something new. Don't ever get content with current circumstances...if it is not alright then make it right...reflect and start a new beginning as soon as you get the wings to fly. Then spread your wings and soar!

Reaping and sowing

Some people say it's karma and some say it's just a law of life. Either way we ought to know that we have to keep an eye on what are we putting in ourselves. We just have to be careful also because sometimes the way that others treat us is a reflection of ourselves. Great weekend!

Good thoughts versus Bad thoughts

Everyday in life we are faced with good and bad things. We also have the freewill to choose our reactions, but not without a battle always. Sometimes we want to do good and end up doing bad. The inner battle of vice versus virtue is not the easiest even when we know what is right. A little ounce of encouragement for those fighting inner demons is remember; You can still decide which "wolf" to feed a day at a time.

Waiting for ourselves and others and things

A lot of people have said that nature is the mother of patience. I have found some truth in those words, as no matter the season and present circumstances, nature waits for the changes that she desires. In our lives it is not always easy to be patient with others if we are not patient with ourselves. We need to understand that waiting is not necessarily a negativity, but a blessing in disguise sometimes, as it can help us to make a better final decision. Not everything was meant to go or come by quickly so let us attempt to practice patience today beginning with ourselves.

Charity begins with whoever is around

Sometimes we think we are not doing any real help unless we are helping starving children in Africa or elsewhere, but even in America, 1 in 4 children are at risk of going to bed hungry, and need a helping hand. So we should not shy away from helping them too. Also, if you have a friend or enemy  close-by or afar who needs anything, be it morally, physically or psychologically just reach out and help them. The funny thing about helping others is when you realize that in the end you also feel wonderful....it is like a divine give and take. Try it and let me know....Great day!

Feelings and feelings

Feelings are an important part of the human experience, and I guess learning to really listen to them, is what grants them significance. Do you remember how your first kiss felt? What about when you accomplished something big? When you first met your enemy or friend? Feelings are unpredictable and sometimes not the best guide of action, but keep an eye on how you make others feel based on their reaction to you. Watch it!;)

Self -worth is critical

Where do you get your sense of self-worth? For some it might mainly be from others.  But what's tricky about that? Well it's like giving people the right to define you. Who gave them the right? Maybe you? Whatever the case, just learn to respect you before respecting others; Know your worth!