One of my best friends who also happens to be my relative once told me that I need to be so nice to my enemies that it becomes natural. She said that based on the biblical principle of piling coals. I was skeptical and did it....and guess what? Behold, 2 years later me and the person who were at odds are buddy buddy and there is no memory of the broken past. Try it today...it will give you peace and joy. And, what is that? Being nice when you desire not to and have a reason to not be nice.