1 Less Problem

Try to focus on the little things that matter in your daily relationships like the smiles and laughter. If  you can't spread genuine laughter and joy to those around you then you might want to re-think what you do around them. Or else they might be thinking in their heads,  "1 Less Problem 1 Less Problem without You". Yes I am referring to the Problem song by Ariana Grande and Iggy Azalea.

Lessons from Roommates

Do you remember your first roommate? What do you remember about them the most? I remember a couple of mine and I can list what I fondly remember about them:

• Tidiness
• Transparency
• Friendliness
• Punctuality
• Ambition
• Positivity
• Sense of humour
• Encourager

 Soooo I realized that I forgot some of my roommates from high school so I will have to let it go. Nevertheless, some of the people that I've stayed with for extended periods have broadened my perspective on life through the things that they did or did not do. Our lives are truly indeed letters to be read.

The Rewards of Piling Coals

One of my best friends who also happens to be my relative once told me that I need to be so nice to my enemies that it becomes natural. She said that based on the biblical principle of piling coals. I was skeptical and did it....and guess what? Behold, 2 years later me and the person who were at odds are buddy buddy and there is no memory of the broken past. Try it today...it will give you peace and joy. And, what is that? Being nice when you desire not to and have a reason to not be nice.

Thoughts on Relationships

Every season of your life requires different types of relationships and everywhere you go they will likely change. Your relationships play a part in determining how happy you will be in school, at work, or home.  Remember that being courteous is the key but being a doormat or rug is not  a part of social etiquette. And, don't give trust so easily unless it is earned and learn to earn the trust of others. Trust is an important aspect of any relationship and without there lies a lot of fakeness, brokenness, and hurt because you didn't see it coming. 

Thoughts on Genuineness

Words are easily said than done. Don't get lost in the words and hidden intentions of those closest to you. The absence of action in doing whatsoever is a clear message that they are not genuine. You should also make an effort to be genuine by making sure that your actions and words matching up.

Building Relationships Insightfully

The manner that you form relationships determines when and how they continue or break. Be very conscious of how you do it and then you will learn how to form more genuine relationships.

How to Know Your True Friends

Sometimes you think you know who your true friends are. Failure is not the only test of sincerity. Success is also a great one. If they can't applaud your success sincerely then who are they to you? Remember that a dangerous snake is the one who hides in the long grass.

Communication and Couples

As I was going through Ebony magazine today something caught my eyes. It was one of the things that a featured couple said. They said that one of the most important or biggest communication classes is marriage. I laughed because I wouldn't doubt that for a fact. I think any relationship that requires vulnerability and trust needs some hardcore communication. So the best place to start learning those skills is with your loved ones.

Everyone Needs Love-Haiku Poem

Everyone needs it,
That's love for all the starters,
So don't you fake it.

Valentine's Day-Haiku Poem

A happy day for some,
A sad day for others they say,
But it's just a  day.

Love is Eternal-Haiku poem

Love is eternal,
It does not need  a yard stick,
To measure it anyhow.

Valentine's Day-Haiku Poem

Hey Valentine's day,
It's all tears and joy for some,
But nothing for others.

Hate into Love-Haiku Poem

You  hate it deeply,
But that hate can soon turn to love,
So respect the lines.

Haiku about Love

Love is what you want,

Only you know what you need,

Don't disagree girl.

Iron Sharpens Iron

A wise man once said, "Iron sharpens Iron." I first heard about this adage last year and I have never been the same. Have you truly asked yourself what that saying means in your personal and professional life? You want to lift others as you rise but be careful as people might end up being a weight on you instead of a wing. It's up to you to decide whether you want to fly or not.

A List of Deal Breakers

Some people find it easy to make a list of deal breakers. Sometimes your deal breakers can say a lot about yourself. For example, are your deal breakers there to shield you from your inner insecurities or are they there to give you the illusion of a perfect mate? Be careful because noone is perfect including you. Would you be able to make it through your own deal breaker list?

The Law of Attraction

Do we always really attract we are? Not always. Sometimes we attract people into our circle who are what we would never want to be.

Searching for Love

Some people are so broken that they will accept love from anyone and anywhere. The one who has found true love won't go searching for it in the wrong places.

Enemies and Frenemies

It is good to have enemies and frenemies. These people can teach you to be a better person. Their actions will challenge you and help you know how to balance your life. And guess what? They could even one day turn into your friends.

The Peace-Maker vs The Fault-Finder

Don't waste your time bickering over anything and everything. It can be taken away from you just as quickly as it was given from you. Learn how to be a peace maker instead of a fault-finder.