At the end of the day, you won't necessarily remember every little thing you did to succeed. You might likely remember the relationships you had...the ones you built and the ones you broke. Caring for people is a part of successful living so make sure you have that healthy element in your life too. Now don't use and abuse people...be sincere.
Listen to the tiny voices that tell you little things. They might not always scream but you will be surprised when you realized that they deserved your attention. Intuition can also be learned so keep your eyes and ears open so you can sharpen your intuition by gaining insight from those who have a better sense of it.
When you think about effective communication, what comes to your mind? I bet that a lot of people will think about speaking. There is one important skill that is highly forgotten and that is listening. Do you cut off people often? Then you aren't a good listener. Learn to listen and it will help you to be a better communicator. Take a day at a time and do it even when you feel like you have something more important to say.
How would you describe your attitude in one word? Not the one that you show the world but the attitude you keep internally just to yourself? Don't lie to yourself. Be authentic and will help you to get where you need to get. Remember that attitude makes the difference.
The feeling of despair is sometimes so comfortable that people would rather fill their minds with it than with hope. Don't stop. A big part of success is learning how to constantly motivate yourself. You can't depend on anyone to do that 24/7 for you. You can only do that for you.
Don't just say that you can't do something. Act and do something about it. How many ways have you tried to overcome your fears? How many people have you asked for help? Don't dance with the idea of things being impossible. Be brave and act even when you are at your lowest point. You will be surprised that is was your pessimism blinding you from the one step of victory you had to take to accomplish your goals.
If you hold on to fear you will remain right where you are...in fear. Fear leads to stagnation. Stagnation leads to entrapment. Entrapment leads to blindness. Blindness leads to a loss of direction. So don't entertain fear because it will lead onto a road to nowhere. It is not a state that takes you to another higher level. So be fearless today and the rest of 2014.
You need to pay attention to the lessons that life teaches you. You need to know the difference between waiting and letting go. Sometimes it is better to persist and wait for time to tell. You need to know when to move on to a new endeavor but at the same time don't be the impulsive type. Give it some time.
The sunk cost effect is an economic term which has a profound meaning in our daily lives. Have you sometimes held on to something too long just because you invested a lot in it? It could be a bad college major, a bad boy/girlfriend, a bad job. Whatever the case is. You need to get the courage to know the difference between holding on and letting go in order to make a wise decision.
Don't be surprised if people do what you never expected them to. You know for a fact that you sometimes don't fulfill the promises that you make yourself. Therefore, be patient with yourself and others.
Sometimes all you have to do is do what you have never done. Doing the same thing in the same way might most likely yield the same results. There is something that you might have never tried but that one thing is what will lead to your breakthrough.
If you don't open your eyes you will never see opportunity knocking at your doorstep. Don't take details for granted. Make the most out of every experience you have as you never know how it will all come together.
Don't despair if you aren't who you want to be today. Some of the most famous and successful people never had things working for them. My boss at work told me that God can take you through some things in life so that you can make that your ministry or mission in life. So don't take your pain or gain for granted as both can be useful.
If you play with fire you will get burned. Read the writing on the wall before playing around with foolishness. Something may bring short-term pleasure but bring long-lasting pain and regret. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Some people are born with confidence and some aren't. We don't have everything but we can strive to gain certain skills that don't naturally come to us. Only you can be confident in the manner that you need to be.
Change is not so far away. It's only as far as you put it. Delaying change means you are comfortable being the same. You need to reach a moment when you promise yourself that you will begin to find ways to change no matter what is in front of you.
Have you ever thought about taking a break from certain things? Is your routine made up of facebook, twitter, instagram, random blog, facebook, facebook, facebook, facebook then you have a facebook addiction. Take a break from facebook and find out what you have been missing out of. Some people delete or deactivate their accounts. Some check it monthly, weekly, or yearly. Whatever you decide to do just make sure that you are creating a healthy balance in your life and not finding a new addiction.
Here are some thoughts from a college senior's experience:
Major in what you naturally excel in
Don't hold on to a major that is taking your GPA nowhere
Be true to yourself and have the guts to stick to your career or change it if necessary
Expose yourself to different experiences in and out of the class. These are your most formative years and any encounter no matter how big or small could have a big impact on your identity and even career interests
Don't think of your life as being constrained by one career or major. Be open to all the new talents you might discover in yourself
Remember that you are your own person at the end of the day and can choose whether or not to join a sorotity, fraternity, or any popular organization
Discipline isn't necessarily about avoiding excesses. It's also about making sure that you aren't have too little of things. In short, discipline is about balance. Discipline is what makes the difference between the person who says they will do something and the one who actually does it.
Ask yourself what words you use often. An analysis of your word usage could give you some insights on what thoughts or feelings motivate your actions. Do you use hate, like, might, would, maybe a lot? Then ask yourself why and remove what needs to be removed.
In order to improve you have to first acknowledge that you need to. Don't be afraid to work on your weaknesses with those who have strengths in such areas. You will be surprised when you realize that some of the most successful people are where they are because they turned their weaknesses into strengths. You just have to be wise so that you know the difference between persistence and moving on when it comes to sharpening your skill in a certain area.
Don't be afraid to take a risk. Loving is a risk. Giving is a risk and so are a lot of things in life. If you don't take risks can you truly say you are living? Risks are roadblocks to be encountered on the way to some of your best and unknown talents. Listen to the tiny whisper which tells the truth.
Sometimes things get worse before they get better. It's hard to comprehend but once you go through some stuff you will know it's true. Don't despair because as long as you are alive there is still something you can do or someone can do for you.
A wise African proverb goes along the lines of " If there is no enemy within then the enemy outside can't harm you." This is a profound truth on a deep level because being in control of your environment is all about your intellect.
Romance and finance...which is which? People have different values at the end of the day someone or 2 people are going to pay some bills. You just have to decide whether you want to enjoy it at the peak of youth or later. Love is also a currency.
Discipline is not always about restraining yourself from excess. Nor is it either engaging excessively in another seemingly beneficial material. Discipline is about balance and moderation. You can have a full life if you choose to live life in bits.
The world has really changed. We almost have everything like that. The internet is at the tip of our fingers and so are many things. With so many of this and that it might be hard for your child to focus. You need to help your child develop a sense of discipline. How? Well you need to exercise discipline by being moderate so your child's lesson is equally important to you.
I saw a quote today in my boss' office that went something like this, "You won't change until the pains of change become painful than remaining the same". I can't remember it word for word but it has a lot of truth. Sometimes it takes pain to change and that's the truth. Just listen to Tracy Chapman's song called "Change" and you will get a glimpse of what it takes to change.
It doesn't matter how you started. It doesn't matter what happened in the middle. If you just finish strong you can forget all the pain and open a totally new chapter. Never despair because even through your pain you are closer to touching a miraculous new tomorrow.
We've always heard about a lot of stuff that we should or should not be doing in order to succeed. One word that often gets forgotten is discipline. Discipline isn't something that begins in the classroom or ends there...it is that one thing that you want to have with you everyday of your life so that you can get done what needs to be done in the way it needs to be done. Don't waste your time or you won't be any different from those who so freely do so.
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