Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Lesson from 2013 #5

#5 Keep yourself informed about the past, present, and future no matter how irrelevant the pieces may seem.

Lessons from 2013 #4

#4 Don't be afraid to throw away something that you have held on for too long. That thing might be withholding many blessings from you. Be adventurous and let go.

Lessons from 2013 #3

#3 Getting up is one of the hardest things but the exhilarating feeling after rising up is one of the best.

Lessons from 2013 #2

#2  If you fall get up. Find a reason to get up. Find an anthem, theme, and that something to hold you up as you to try to get up.

Lessons from 2013 #1

#1 Try something new as you may never know what it holds in store for you. It could be your hidden or undiscovered talent.

End of the Year Thoughts #9

#9 Try doing something someone told you could never do or do something you would be so embarrassed to do like performing a dance recital or acting in a play.

End of the Year Thoughts #8

#8 Pay attention to those around you. It's good to be an active contributor but also listen very carefully because you can learn a lot.

End of the Year Thoughts #7

#7 Don't be surprised if those closest to you hurt those who are dear to you. We are all imperfect humans at the end of the day.

End of the Year Thoughts #6

#6 If you want something bad enough you might exactly get it or it can lead you to something way better.

End of the Year Thoughts #10

#10 Don't be afraid to do somethings on a spree. Sometimes what you want to do is something that will enlighten you.

Monday, December 30, 2013

End of the Year Thoughts #5

#5 Forgiveness is one of the hardest things and it is the most important thing you need in order to live your life freely. Forget the past but learn from it and don't repeat your mistakes.

End of the Year Thoughts #4

#4 Listen to your heart. You will be surprised that as you grow your instinct can become clearer and distinctive.

End of the Year Thoughts #3

#3 Don't trust anyone just because you want to ...stop and wait for them to give you a reason to.

End of the Year Thoughts #2

#2 Be the best kind of friend you can be but don't allow yourself to be someone's punchbag for the sake of boosting your ego.

End of the Year Thoughts #1

#If you want something don't wait for someone to give it to you. Get up and go get it. Be a go-getter.

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #7

If your new year's resolution is to find a life partner then don't forget to better some time improving yourself. Some people say you attract what you are. Others say that opposites attract. Regardless, of what side of the fence you are on, just remember that your relationship quest is not only about someone else but also you; that is because you bring yourself to a relationship. And don't force anything just because the year is about to end ...yeah because love is timeless.

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #6

If your new year's resolution to start a business then be prepared for anything. Entrepreneurship are for the brave, prepared, and flexible. Set your goals but remember that things might change. Sometimes the most important thing to remember is to not give up.

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #5

If your new year's resolution is to read more books then you might have to reduce the amount of time you spend reading magazines  or blogs online. Find something you are really interested in then read about it. Also, start with small books. You'll be surprised that you will later be reading bigger books or even writing your own.

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #4

A general resolution which makes it somewhat more achievable is to explore new things. This could be anything from making new friends, taking different classes, or travelling.  Prepare for these new situations because simply diving in is not always the best advice.

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #3

A common resolution for students might be to get higher grades or excel on a standardized test like the SAT,  TOEFL, GMAT, GRE, MCAT, PCAT and so on. You need to remember that you are more than a grade. Do your best and don't forget to maximize your academic strengths. Don't waste on your time on your weaknesses that might take a lot of your time and blind you from your underlying academic strengths.

Sunday, December 29, 2013

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #2

I am not sure if this a popular resolution but some people decide that they want to eat healthier. It might get challenging depending on your budget and what is available in your area. Just remember to make small changes in your diet that can lead to big changes in the long term.

Thoughts on New Year's Resolutions #1

One of the most popular new year's resolutions is increasingly becoming to lose or gain weight. Everyone has their own reasons. Just make sure you already love yourself from the inside-out before you move on to change your outside. If you don't then take time to love yourself throughout the process.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #10

#10 Stay away from people who are out there to discourage you. Don't give them your time of the day.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #9

#9 Look back at your life through years and see if there are some lessons you can learn from your failures and successes with your resolutions. Find a way to apply those old lessons to your new resolution.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #8

#8 Find at least one person who can encourage you to accomplish your resolution. You don't have to let the person explicitly know they are like your motivator. It's up to your discretion.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #7

#7 Remember that you aren't perfect and don't let your resolution become the yard stick to measure your worth as a person.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #6

#6 After you figure out when to begin living out your new year's resolution remember to be realistic. Anticipate challenges and make a back-up plan.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #5

#5 After you are sure that you want to make a new year's resolution. Ask yourself when will you begin to go about the resolution. Will you start in January, June, or November?

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #4

#4 After you are sure that you want to make a new year's resolution. Ask yourself how will you make the resolution a reality.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #3

#3 After you are sure that you want to make a new year's resolution. Ask yourself what should the resolution be about.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #2

#2 After you are sure that you want to make a new year's resolution. Ask yourself why you should make the resolution.

Advice on New Year's Resolutions #1

#1 Ask yourself whether you should really make  a New Year's resolution. This is the moment of honesty.

The Why's of Life

Sometimes you might ask yourself why certain things happened to you. Sometimes you will find out and sometimes you won't. It's okay. You don't need to know everything in order to make sense of your life. Maximize on what you know and move on.

Forgetting about New Year's Resolutions

It's not always easy to remember your New Year's resolutions. But take a look at your life. You will realize that there are some positive changes that have taken place no matter how small. You can celebrate those even if you don't remember your resolutions.

How to Learn about Yourself

In the quest of knowledge, don't forget to take time to learn about yourself. It's not enough to know about  the what's in your life. You need to ask yourself about the how's and why's of your life so you can understand why you are the way you are.

Say No to Boredom

Don't live a boring life. Don't dig a grave of boredom for yourself. You have to make sure that you try out different things. You never know what you are missing out on.

Change is Possible

Change is a normal part of life. It might scare you. It might make you feel like breaking don't get discouraged. If the weather can change, so can you.

Don't Give Up

The day you are about to give up is the day you are about to win. It may sound cliche but think about your life and look around, you will be surprised that it's true.

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Waiting or Leaving

You need to know when to let go of something and when to wait for a better outcome. Basically you need to train your mind to know the difference between hope and stagnation. Hope is useful when the pros outweigh the cons and stagnation occurs when you stay in  a situation where the negatives outweigh the positives.

Guns and Triggers

Everybody has a different thing that motivates them to act the way they do. It is easy for good company to be corrupted and that is why you hardly hear anyone being told to guard their bad habits. So don't allow negativity to pervade your life, in a nutshell, remember the anonymous words ..."Don't let people get to you. They can't pull the trigger if you don't hand them the gun."

Tuesday, December 24, 2013

How to Truly Help Someone

You might think giving people money and lavish gifts can make them love you.  Some might think that offering intellectual advice is also a way to reach out to the less fortunate.Nope ...it can actually make it more miserable. People need to know that you are truly interested in them with your whole being. Just remember that, as it has always been said that, "People don't care what you know until they know that you care."

The Spirit of Christmas

This Christmas find a way to do something you have never done.  You only have 1 Christmas in 2013. Make the most of it and be as giving as ever in every way possible. Spread some love and cheer...you never know who might be needing it the most.

Hate and Opinions

We all have our strong views about different things. Some of these thoughts might not be politically correct and might even be down-right offensive. In light of that, we need to make sure that we express our views with wisdom through respect and empathy. Anyone in America might be thinking of the Duck Dynasty people and yeah you should.

Loving vs Hating

Hate is something that can turn you into a monster. Life is not about hate. Love leads to a fullness in one's life while hate deprives an individual from the benefits of practicing love through patience, forgiveness, generosity, and more.

Sunday, December 22, 2013

Your Strengths vs Your Weaknesses

It is sometimes much easier to focus on your weaknesses than your strengths. Paying too much attention to your weaknesses can diminish your strengths. Maximize your strengths so they can show you the way out in the midst of your weaknesses.

Saturday, December 21, 2013

What is Love?

I am going to a wedding today so this post will be about love. Love sees no societal constraints. We might tell ourselves that we want to fall in love with a black or white person or a poor or rich person. At the end of the day, your heart can make decisions that will surprise. Cheers to the fearless in love!

Friday, December 20, 2013

Be Brave

Don't allow fear to stop you from making a move. Learn from your past and conquer your doubts. Be brave today.

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Allowing Yourself to be You

Different cultures have their expectations of what attitudes are viewed favorably. Such national attitudes can directly or indirectly influence the way you act. Even smaller groups like your co-workers, friends, and relatives can shape the way you see things. Learn to see things through others eyes but don't lose yourself and become blind in the process.

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

The Power of your Attitude

There is a price today that we pay because of what we did in the past. Sometimes its something that was done by someone else. At the end of the day, the denominator is your attitude. Your reaction to what is in your present will determine your future.

Does Love Answer Everything?

Love is often mentioned as the answer to everything and to some extent it can be. The question is what kind of love can solve the world's issues. Romantic? Brotherly? I think a mix and healthy balance of the different types of love and other things is needed.

Reasons to be Thankful

Be thankful for what you have today. The things you complain about today might turn into the things you will beg and pray for tomorrow.

Preparing for the Future

What you see today may not be the same tomorrow. Enjoy the present but don't underestimate the future. Prepare and prepare. Tomorrow's future is fundamental in building a new beginning for you.

Finding the Light

God can allow people and circumstances to disappoint you to the point of breaking. In times like that just seek His guidance. It will lead you to the light.

Monday, December 16, 2013

Understanding your Habits

Sometimes it is easier to start something than to end it. You need to be careful with what you allow to become a habit. There might not always be a cost when beginning something but there is usually a price to pay when ending something.

Saturday, December 14, 2013

A Time to Grow

Does waiting irritate you? A lot of good things take time. It takes time for a baby to be born and even it takes time for  a baby to grow. Try to think of waiting as a time of growth.

Friday, December 13, 2013

Enemies and Frenemies

It is good to have enemies and frenemies. These people can teach you to be a better person. Their actions will challenge you and help you know how to balance your life. And guess what? They could even one day turn into your friends.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

How to Live a Full Life

You need to value your time. It might look like everyone is doing nothing. You are wrong. You only meet them when they are on a break. If you want to truly live then challenge yourself.

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Managing Your Social Circles

You need to be cautious with your social circle. They can influence your destiny. If all you do is hang out with those who have no goals...what does that say of you? Do you enjoy the gratification of being accomplished than everyone else. And, if all you do is stick around the accomplished, do you think you are too good for everyone else? It's not easy but look for balance in your social circles.

Monday, December 9, 2013

Dealing with Self-Hatred

You weren't placed into a certain country or color by chance. As a human, wherever you are, you have a great calling. You need to accept your identity in order to benefit those within and outside of your identity. Don't hate yourself and don't do it to other identities either.

Happy Independence Day Tanzania!!!!!

Tanzania is now 52 years old since its independence from the British. We thank God that it was not a bloody battle.
We have lived in peace since then and plan on doing so forever. Let us be aware of neo-colonialism and spearhead change ourselves.
Don't wait for other countries or your government. Make a difference today starting with you, your family, your community and more.
Sometimes all a country needs is a ripple effect.


Sunday, December 8, 2013

Cherishing Today

Cherish the treasures of today. Even if tomorrow is guaranteed by hope, you can't control the changes in what you used to give you joy. When that happens don't waste your time crying about the past. Pick yourself and find something new that can brighten your life.

The Dangers of Fault-finding

Are you looking for solutions to your problems? Well fault-finding is not the path to take. Blaming others will blind you. Take responsibility for yourself no matter who did or did not do something.

Friday, December 6, 2013

Who will Succeed Mandela?

Mandela is a lion of Africa. Who are the lions now? Mugabe, Kagame, Kikwete? Who? Leave your thoughts in the common box.

Money isn't it All

Somebody called Shaa sang, that although she doesn't have it all, she has a good heart. Mmmm so money isn't everything.

Goodbye Mandela

It is coincidental that this blog started with a post related to Mandela. Who knew that he would be gone today? He had an amazing spirit that sacrificed everything even when hope was bleak. A lot of work still remains to be done in South Africa and other African countries. Mandela has paved the way. Who will follow?

Thursday, December 5, 2013

The Irony behind Stereotypes

Stereotypes are easy to make and hard to break. So be careful before you do that to yourself or someone.

Tuesday, December 3, 2013

The Power of One Yes

The power of 1 yes is underestimated often. Sometimes all it takes is 1 yes from someone to help you reach your destination.

Reflections on Cursing and Swearing

If it is true that our words affect our lives, why would we choose to utter words of damnation? Why does every little or big thing become a cause to swear or curse? What if people chose other 4 letter words like love and hope to express themselves?

Dealing with Generational Curses

It is true that minority women in America experience higher infant mortality rates than other races. Some of the factors include the stress of being in a race-conscious society. It is more than ever imperative for young women of color to be taught before pregnancy how to deal with stress so that it does not carry on to their unborn children. This can apply to anyone else too. There are some issues you need to deal with now so that they don't move into your next generation.

How to be a Better Listener

Stop making everything about you. Not everyone wants to hear about your life. Make everything about others and through selflessness you can find healing. Make it your goal to be a better listener everyday. Ask and ask questions about someone and give feedback. If you are uninvited to give your opinion then hush. Not everyone is meant to listen to you but you can make it your goal to listen to everyone.

Sunday, December 1, 2013

Being Cautious of Self-fulfilling Prophecies

Self- fulfilling prophecies are so weird. There are some things that you tell yourself that might actually come true. I guess we can all be glad that some of these things we wish for ourselves haven't come true. All in all, be careful with what you accept about yourself based on your opinions or those of others because it can affect your thoughts, feelings, actions, and words.

How to be an Effective Networker

We often get introduced to many people everyday. There is no telling who is connected to who. We don't even know who it is that we will want to connect with in the future. Here are some tips to help you maintain your connections in peace:
  1. Watch your mouth. Don't always say what you truly think about someone. Some things are best left unsaid. In fact, no one is perfect including you. So focus on the positives of your connections.
  2. Watch your keyboard. Don't waste your time, energy, and resources reaching out to connections who seem to have no time for you. When the season is right, they will respond. If the time never comes then let it go. Not all connections are meant to be used.

How to Mentor Someone

If you don't want to be a mentor then don't ever offer to be one. A mentor is an important person to the mentee. It is important to remember that the mentor has the upper hand because they have more experience. Don't wait on your mentee to reach out to you. You need to be the one to check on them occassionally to make sure they get where you are or more. If need arises, I will talk about the responsibility of the mentee another day.

How to be a Better Person

Everyday is a new day. You may think that you are the same person and you might be. But every new day or even minute is an opportunity for you to become a better person. Sometimes you might even surprise yourself by what you do. You have to patient when learning about yourself. 

Reasons to Not lose Hope in Life

Life is unpredictable. There are surprising things that can happen to you or those around you. These circumstances might make you want to lose hope. But you don't have to because even the sun's daily appearance is a whisper to not lose eternal hope.