The Difference between Compromising and Forcing

There has got to be a difference between compromising and forcing. In compromising you are trying to make everyone happy. When you force someone, you basically want to make yourself happy by trying to make someone else think that your happiness is theirs too. The former is based on selflessness and the latter on selfishness. Any thoughts?

How to be a Better Listener

Stop making everything about you. Not everyone wants to hear about your life. Make everything about others and through selflessness you can find healing. Make it your goal to be a better listener everyday. Ask and ask questions about someone and give feedback. If you are uninvited to give your opinion then hush. Not everyone is meant to listen to you but you can make it your goal to listen to everyone.

Is Marriage For You?

I came across an article some weeks ago about selflessness in marriage. I was so curious to read it and later realized that it was all about selflessness. The article also made me wonder whether some people are not meant to marry. Could it be because of excessive selfishness or excessive selflessness? Either way you need to have a balance before or after you marry someone or your selflessness might  make you resentful if you have a selfish partner. On the other hand, of course if you are selfish in marriage it won't really make sense because marriage is all about sharing everything.

How to Be Altruistic

What makes you the happiest? Why do you only want it for yourself? Why don't you try to give that happiness you most desire to someone else? Take time to think about  others than yourself....you will always have you but not always others.

How to know you are in love?

Everyone defines love differently and can take hours and hours explaining their specific view. I think that the majority of people will agree that the couples who have been together through thick and thin are really in love. This does not mean that the couples who have only gone through good times are not in love...they are also in love. The one thing is that people tend to be in different stages of love. So even if you have been with somebody for years you may or may not be in the initial stages of love. Love has different stages and seasons and when you reach a point where you are selfless and ready to make any kind of reasonable sacrifice for your significant other then you are in love.

Loving and Liking Someone

I remember having a conversation with someone a couple of days ago about the complexity of loving and liking someone. In a nutshell, we both realized that love is more giving and selfless while on the other hand you might also end up liking someone for selfish reasons. For example you might like someone a lot because they make you laugh and  then think that you necessarily love that person. Just because your desire to laugh is satisfied and you feel good does not mean that you genuinely love that person. You can also really like or enjoy the company of someone but it doesn't mean that you love them. Loving goes beyond liking and involves making the conscious decision to always make sometimes difficult choices that in the end will be the best for you and your significant others in the good and bad times. Thus, in mathematical terms sometimes the following are true:
Liking  =  Selfishness
Loving =  Selflessness
Just think about it  today.

Purpose in life....

Have you ever though about what is your life purpose beyond your career? Is there really a day for us to figure out what is our specific reason for being on earth? The crazy thing is that we sometimes flee from our gifts and missions. And crazier than that, is that sometimes there is  no definite way to know for sure  that something is your purpose based on whether it brings you pain or joy or whether it is done with ease or difficulty. But I still think that passion is a good way to figure out our purpose. By figuring out what our passions are, it can be one way to begin a step at a time to find our true purpose in life that transcends our individual happiness, and goes on to make the world a better place.

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Humility is a treasure

Today I am pondering on humility. What makes us proud? Why do we sometimes compares ourselves to others in order to feel better? I bet a psychologist or someone with a good head on their shoulders would know. As for now, I don't know...I know I just want to be humble...I want to be in the valley.

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Nelson Mandela once said, "For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others." What does this quote make you think about? It makes me realize that a lot of things in life are so interconnected whether they are bad or good. If Mandela realized his personal freedom was not everything it means he realized that he was just a part of the bigger picture of freedom. So in whatever you do today whether you are a college student, writer, waitress or chef remember you are just a part of a larger goal. Basically let us be less selfish today.That’s all for today…next time!