The Difference between Compromising and Forcing

There has got to be a difference between compromising and forcing. In compromising you are trying to make everyone happy. When you force someone, you basically want to make yourself happy by trying to make someone else think that your happiness is theirs too. The former is based on selflessness and the latter on selfishness. Any thoughts?

Finding Healing through Healing others

You might think that you have had it worse. That's until you hear of other people's pain. A part of being generous is lending your ears to listen to the problems of those around you. Open your ears and take your eyes off your pain, for you will be surprised that you can find your healing on the road to helping others heal.

How to be a Better Listener

Stop making everything about you. Not everyone wants to hear about your life. Make everything about others and through selflessness you can find healing. Make it your goal to be a better listener everyday. Ask and ask questions about someone and give feedback. If you are uninvited to give your opinion then hush. Not everyone is meant to listen to you but you can make it your goal to listen to everyone.

Is Marriage For You?

I came across an article some weeks ago about selflessness in marriage. I was so curious to read it and later realized that it was all about selflessness. The article also made me wonder whether some people are not meant to marry. Could it be because of excessive selfishness or excessive selflessness? Either way you need to have a balance before or after you marry someone or your selflessness might  make you resentful if you have a selfish partner. On the other hand, of course if you are selfish in marriage it won't really make sense because marriage is all about sharing everything.

The Dangers of Jealousy

Why don't you celebrate when someone succeeds? Why do you get mad when someone gets what you have wanted for so long. Life is weird with its ups and downs and jealousy is not the way to go. It will just pull you down where you don't want to be. Learn to celebrate others success and it will make your life better even if for a second as you rid yourself of your selfishness.

How to Be Altruistic

What makes you the happiest? Why do you only want it for yourself? Why don't you try to give that happiness you most desire to someone else? Take time to think about  others than yourself....you will always have you but not always others.

The Dangers of Self-centredness

The world revolves around you. All you want is the best for you. You don't even care about how it will affect the well being of your loved ones. If that some or all of that sounds like you then you are dancing with self-centredness.  Just remember that humans weren't made to live alone. Sometimes people will even go crazy if they are put away from other humans so take time to interact with others and get out of your bubble of self-centredness.

Helping Others Is A Sure Way To Win

When we think about winning sometimes we place our goals over those of others. We just totally embrace this "me" mentality. We are point blank being selfish. Don't forget that although you might have different goals and dreams than others you can be a bridge to their accomplishment. Remember that winning is not meant to be an "I" thing it is mosst fulfilling as a "we" thing.

How to know you are in love?

Everyone defines love differently and can take hours and hours explaining their specific view. I think that the majority of people will agree that the couples who have been together through thick and thin are really in love. This does not mean that the couples who have only gone through good times are not in love...they are also in love. The one thing is that people tend to be in different stages of love. So even if you have been with somebody for years you may or may not be in the initial stages of love. Love has different stages and seasons and when you reach a point where you are selfless and ready to make any kind of reasonable sacrifice for your significant other then you are in love.

Loving and Liking Someone

I remember having a conversation with someone a couple of days ago about the complexity of loving and liking someone. In a nutshell, we both realized that love is more giving and selfless while on the other hand you might also end up liking someone for selfish reasons. For example you might like someone a lot because they make you laugh and  then think that you necessarily love that person. Just because your desire to laugh is satisfied and you feel good does not mean that you genuinely love that person. You can also really like or enjoy the company of someone but it doesn't mean that you love them. Loving goes beyond liking and involves making the conscious decision to always make sometimes difficult choices that in the end will be the best for you and your significant others in the good and bad times. Thus, in mathematical terms sometimes the following are true:
Liking  =  Selfishness
Loving =  Selflessness
Just think about it  today.