Allowing Yourself to be You

Different cultures have their expectations of what attitudes are viewed favorably. Such national attitudes can directly or indirectly influence the way you act. Even smaller groups like your co-workers, friends, and relatives can shape the way you see things. Learn to see things through others eyes but don't lose yourself and become blind in the process.

A Moment of Truth

The truth always comes out sooner or later. You might be lying to yourself and living for other people. You need to stop yourself before you dig yourself into pits of lies. Lies about your relationships, potential, appearance, culture, and more.  Don't ignore the voice that knows the truth, Be you although it's not easy but at the end of the day you will realize it will be worth it.

Advice to a 22 Year Old Lady

Hey there 22 year old lady. How is it being 22? Are you letting people still make decisions for you unconsciously? Do you let the spoken and unspoken thoughts of irrelevant and relevant people around you affect the most important decisions in your life? You know deep in your heart what is the best thing for you. You know what is the best thing for your career and love life. You have lived long enough to be considered an adult in any continent of the world. Live to the fullest. Be you and that will be the best reward to you and your future 23 year old self.

Love,

A fresh 23 year old

Creativity and life and nature

There is something special about you and the way you do things. There is something special about you and the way you approach life. There is something special about you and the way you see "you" and others. Don't let that go at any cost...don't lose your history...don't lose your values. For in all that and more is  the spark of creativity. Hold on to "you" and reach out with getting lost, and inspire yourself and others with the beauty of creativity in each and everything you do...Don't let go of it, as creativity is a rare commodity.

Insecurity is contagious

I bet a couple of us were trained to not be insecure from an early age. But for some of us maybe it was simply emphasized without any mention of the repercussions. Just think of it...if you are insecure you might consciously, unconsciously, or sub-consciously end up holding others back. So leave insecurity out of the door and say hello to a world of self-confidence that will empower you and others in a chain reaction.

Self control and you

 

Have you ever tried controlling an adult? It is useless. Children are the ones who need such control, instruction, or guidance. But when you and others grow older, you just have to let it be. You have to let it be, and to not forget that the easiest way to stay sane, in the midst of whichever chaos is to control yourself. Don't waste your time trying to control external factors. Instead, take the time to know "you" in depth, so you can control your reactions to the ups and downs of life.

Motivation if you got haterssss



I don't usually write about haters often, but I know there is someone out there, who might not be living life fully because of them. My 2 cents for you is please don't worry about them. Please focus on your life no matter how hard it seems. A wise friend of mine once told me is "that if you play with pigs in the mud, you will get dirty and the pigs won't care because they love the dirt." So my brothers and sisters don't let haters take you down to the dirt...rise up and keep that dirt off your shoulder for good. Oh and don't carry that negative energy from the haters in you or you will become a hater!!! And of course, Sweety Brown already said, "Aint nobody got time for that" and you shouldn't either. Happy weekend!!!

Dancing with the music of life



When I was little I was fascinated by ballerina dancers and figure skaters. I even remember trying to spin like Nancy Kerrigan one of the best figure skaters of the 90s. Never made it to a ballerina class, and yeah I still dance, and enjoy watching different kinds of dance shows. I don't know today what kind of music fascinates you, but don't forget to take time to dance. There is something magical about dancing that tells the story of life in a way that even words can't, so dance and dance!

Leading and leadership

Leadership is indeed something that is worth practicing before claiming expertise. You can't know what kind of leader you are, until you actually start to lead. And of course, leadership is not all about you, but about others. If you have a broad vision for many people, and you are willing to put in the work to make it a reality, then you are a leader. And of course leading is all about "Let's go" and not just "Go!"

Regrets and regrets

Don't you sometimes feel like your life is full of regrets? I didn't, I shouldn't have, I wish I hadn't...don't those all sound familiar? Relax, your just a human, navigating the plains of life. Nobody has all the answers, but what you can do is be patient with yourself, and the twists and turns of life. Don't dwell on the past, learn and move on, and then turn your pain into gain and lemons into lemonade.

Trust and promises...promises and trust

When it comes to daily relationships or even the corporate world, many of us want people we can trust...that is dependable people. Trust is indeed an important character. As for some people when it comes to choosing a life partner, trust is one of the most important things beyond even money, looks and other criteria. And it hurts when someone you trust doesn't keep a promise, but don't get bitter, but instead use that experience to motivate you to keep your promises. And, yeah don't make promises you can't keep for  the sake of the moment. Be strategic and truthful a day at a time, as you build blocks of truth, as there is no need to make a promise you can't keep in the first place.

Solitude is golden

Are you afraid of taking time alone? Taking time alone is a gift in its self. Sometimes the best revelations or epiphanies emerge in moments of solitude. So whenever you find yourself alone either by choice or chance, in the midst of a busy day; embrace the solitude and listen....listen and you will hear what needs to be heard.

Humility and rising

Some people might think humility is a bad thing, but sometimes we don't even have to look so far, as nature shows us that being "lower like an ocean can give you power from rivers."And from that power, guess what? You can use to positively impact the lives of people around you and even afar. Also, just remember that no matter what your plight in life is, it's not all about you. Somebody must have made your life easier in one way or another, even directly or indirectly. So be humble and give back everyday in big and small ways, that is the essence of human life and nature.

Waiting and waiting

 Don't we all hate waiting? Funny enough, we are sometimes the ones who keep ourselves, and others waiting. Sometimes the best things in life take time. Sometimes what we want or need isn't ready, so we have to wait. So what should we do while waiting? One thing to remember is, that if you know what your waiting for is valuable, then give it some credit, and be patient....wait with a good attitude:)

Change

It is sometimes always easier to hope and pray that people or circumstances will change. And of course, if that or they change everything becomes okay. But wait a minute, what about us? Yes, what about you and me? We also have to change. Sometimes it is hard to change a person or circumstance; but what if you change while waiting for the change that comes or never comes? Well you will be on the winning side because you decided to change first, and move beyond the present cloudiness. Just make sure the self-change is balanced, so don't forget to be you in the midst of change.

Waiting for ourselves and others and things

A lot of people have said that nature is the mother of patience. I have found some truth in those words, as no matter the season and present circumstances, nature waits for the changes that she desires. In our lives it is not always easy to be patient with others if we are not patient with ourselves. We need to understand that waiting is not necessarily a negativity, but a blessing in disguise sometimes, as it can help us to make a better final decision. Not everything was meant to go or come by quickly so let us attempt to practice patience today beginning with ourselves.

Charity begins with whoever is around

Sometimes we think we are not doing any real help unless we are helping starving children in Africa or elsewhere, but even in America, 1 in 4 children are at risk of going to bed hungry, and need a helping hand. So we should not shy away from helping them too. Also, if you have a friend or enemy  close-by or afar who needs anything, be it morally, physically or psychologically just reach out and help them. The funny thing about helping others is when you realize that in the end you also feel wonderful....it is like a divine give and take. Try it and let me know....Great day!

Feelings and feelings

Feelings are an important part of the human experience, and I guess learning to really listen to them, is what grants them significance. Do you remember how your first kiss felt? What about when you accomplished something big? When you first met your enemy or friend? Feelings are unpredictable and sometimes not the best guide of action, but keep an eye on how you make others feel based on their reaction to you. Watch it!;)

Self -worth is critical

Where do you get your sense of self-worth? For some it might mainly be from others.  But what's tricky about that? Well it's like giving people the right to define you. Who gave them the right? Maybe you? Whatever the case, just learn to respect you before respecting others; Know your worth!

Silence is sometimes loud

Silence is sometimes golden. When I think of some of the people I admire, they all share one thing in common; they use silence at the right time. Silence when used right or in moderation is a great teacher to the self and others.
Sometimes we just need to take a break from all the noise and distractions and remain silent. Through silence we can spare ourselves a lot of pain or confusion; as remaining silent can give you more time to think before you open your mouth.
I believe some of the greatest ideas are born out of silence applied at the right time!
Great day everyone!!!!